Last time I opened up about 𝒷𝑜𝒹𝓎 𝓅𝑜𝓈𝒾𝓉𝒾𝓋𝒾𝓉𝓎, and that got me thinking…
Body positivity looks different for everyone.
Everyone has something that they struggle with. Whether it be your weight, your body shape or even your skin [this is mine!!]. This is a hard topic for everyone, even the people who love themselves completely. I promise, even those who preach self love still struggle from time to time.
𝒮𝑒𝓁𝒻 𝓁𝑜𝓋𝑒 𝒾𝓈 𝓃𝑜𝓉 𝑒𝒶𝓈𝓎. It’s a hard thing to accomplish. It’s hard to look in the mirror after eating 11 donuts or an ENTIRE pizza [I literally end up doing this every other weekend - eye roll] and be like 𝙳𝙰𝙼𝙽 𝙸 𝙻𝙾𝙾𝙺 𝙶𝙾𝙾𝙳.
Because chances are, I’m going straight to bed, waking up in the morning and REGRETTING ordering Papa John’s in the first place and wishing they would just go ahead and revoke my account. And guess what: THIS IS OKAY!!!
[[Spoiler Alert: 𝐼𝓉 𝒹𝑜𝑒𝓈𝓃’𝓉 𝓂𝑒𝒶𝓃 𝐼 𝒽𝒶𝓉𝑒 𝓂𝓎𝓈𝑒𝓁𝒻]].
People always talk about positivity. But has anyone ALSO ever told you that it’s okay if you don’t love 100% of your body 100% of the time?
𝙱𝙾𝙳𝚈 𝙿𝙾𝚂𝙸𝚃𝙸𝚅𝙸𝚃𝚈 𝙸𝚂 𝙷𝙰𝚁𝙳 𝙿𝙴𝙾𝙿𝙻𝙴!!!!
There is this uproar of loving yourself, and this “you have to love your body and if you don’t then there is something wrong with you” mindset. And this “if you aren’t 100% in love with the way you look, then you should be ashamed” ideal.
Truly loving yourself and your body and the way you look and everything about you is HARD, and truth be told, there are probably some things we want to change. It is a 𝒸𝑜𝓃𝓈𝓉𝒶𝓃𝓉 𝓈𝓉𝓇𝓊𝑔𝑔𝓁𝑒, it takes a 𝒸𝑜𝓃𝓈𝒸𝒾𝑜𝓊𝓈 𝑒𝒻𝒻𝑜𝓇𝓉, AND IT’S OKAY IF YOU AREN’T THERE YET.
To me, 𝒷𝑜𝒹𝓎 𝓅𝑜𝓈𝒾𝓉𝒾𝓋𝒾𝓉𝓎 𝒾𝓈 𝓂𝑜𝓇𝑒 𝓉𝒽𝒶𝓃 𝒿𝓊𝓈𝓉 𝓁𝑜𝓋𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝓎𝑜𝓊𝓇 𝒷𝑜𝒹𝓎 𝒾𝓃 𝒾𝓉𝓈 𝒸𝓊𝓇𝓇𝑒𝓃𝓉 𝓈𝓉𝒶𝓉𝑒. Body positivity is being able to NOT love everything about your body and STILL love yourself. [Of course I am a fan of the body positivity movement, this is what the world has NEEDED for years]. But it isn’t as easy as social media makes it look and I’m afraid it’s turning into a movement to shame those who don’t love their body exactly the way it is.
We’re being taught that - 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚒𝚜 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚋𝚘𝚍𝚢 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚑𝚊𝚟𝚎; 𝚜𝚘 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚋𝚎𝚝𝚝𝚎𝚛 𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎 𝚒𝚝 𝚘𝚛 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚎 𝚒𝚜 𝚜𝚘𝚖𝚎𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚠𝚛𝚘𝚗𝚐 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚈𝙾𝚄-. I love my body, but there are still things I want to improve. AND THAT, MY FRIENDS, IS EQUALLY AS EMPOWERING AS LOVING YOUR BODY THE WAY IT IS.
It is so 𝓊𝓅𝓁𝒾𝒻𝓉𝒾𝓃𝑔 to be able to admit to yourself “Damn, I love the way I look, but I’d also love to lose a couple pounds, and that doesn’t mean I don’t love myself”.
Self love is not restricted to body positivity. Loving YOU means loving yourself 𝒾𝓃 𝓈𝓅𝒾𝓉𝑒 of loving the way you look, 𝚗𝚘𝚝 𝚋𝚎𝚌𝚊𝚞𝚜𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚒𝚝.
How about instead of body positivity we start practicing SELF positivity, and loving every part of yourself, 𝑒𝓋𝑒𝓃 𝓉𝒽𝑒 𝓅𝒶𝓇𝓉𝓈 𝓎𝑜𝓊 𝓌𝒶𝓃𝓉 𝓉𝑜 𝒸𝒽𝒶𝓃𝑔𝑒.
Start with doing something that makes you (key word here) feel good. You aren’t going to randomly wake up one day and be like holy shit I love myself now.
𝙸𝚝 𝚒𝚜 𝚊 𝙿𝚁𝙾𝙲𝙴𝚂𝚂. 𝙸𝚃 𝙸𝚂 𝙷𝙰𝚁𝙳.
Find something that makes YOU feel good about your body and yourself:
Buying clothes that make you feel 𝓈𝑒𝓍𝓎?? Eating healthy?? Not eating healthy?? Meditation? Yoga? Painting?? Reading? Binging Netflix? Powerlifting (dis me)?? Eating veggies (no thank you)?? Eating pizza (yes, cheese plz)?? Hiking?? Singing in the shower??
Whatever it may be, find something that makes you feel good, something that helps you remember that your body does not define you, something that helps you remember that it is OKAY if you don’t love the way you look all the time.