I've always been pretty confident, but that doesn't mean I haven't struggled with my image. I haven't always been happy being thick. It hasn't always been "𝒾𝓃". During these times, fashion is what really helped me find myself and figure out how to genuinely be comfortable in my body.
People will say "Come on, it's ONLY clothes, it's not THAT BIG of a deal, it can't make you feel THAT different". But to me, fashion is one of the purest forms of expressing yourself.
I can't tell you the number of times I've been told: "I could never pull that off, I don't know how you do it". And my rebuttal is almost always "Yes you can, you just don't know it yet". Ever seen a top, or a pair of shoes and think: "DAMN. Those are so cool I wish I could pull those off"? But you tell yourself you can't. Because they're too 𝚍𝚒𝚏𝚏𝚎𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚝, too 𝚝𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚍𝚢, too 𝚠𝚑𝚊𝚝𝚎𝚟𝚎𝚛?
Well, I am here to tell you; You are not confined to the image other people think you should have, or even the image you have had in the past. 𝒴𝑜𝓊 𝒶𝓇𝑒 𝒶𝓁𝓁𝑜𝓌𝑒𝒹 𝓉𝑜 𝒸𝒽𝒶𝓃𝑔𝑒! You are allowed to try something 𝚍𝚒𝚏𝚏𝚎𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚝! You are allowed to search the corners of the FASHION UNIVERSE until you find something that makes you feel 𝙿𝙾𝚆𝙴𝚁𝙵𝚄𝙻!!
I always hear people saying how you should wear what you're comfortable in. For me, it's the opposite. I wear what I'm 𝓊𝓃𝒸𝑜𝓂𝒻𝑜𝓇𝓉𝒶𝒷𝓁𝑒 in. I mean, think about it: If you continue to wear what you've always worn, and you've never quite 100% felt like that 𝚋𝚊𝚍 𝚋𝚒𝚝𝚌𝚑 that you know you are, how is anything ever going to change??
I am a firm believer that how you dress yourself can really affect your mood. What you wear can either make you confident OR comfortable. You may not feel it at first, but I promise you, if you continue to wear more of what you want and less of what you think people want to see you in, that is when you truly start living.
I know it sounds cliché, but literally who cares what people think?? Because I guarantee that 100% of the time, anyone who has anything negative to say about your outfit (𝚑𝚊𝚝𝚎𝚛𝚛𝚛𝚛𝚜) or is given' you the stank eye, are really just thinking, "Dang I wish I could pull that off". And just remember, all you have to do is let them know that they can!
Now. This isn't to say that you will never wear something, and then look back and be like "𝒪𝒦. 𝓌𝓉𝒻 𝓌𝒶𝓈 𝐼 𝓉𝒽𝒾𝓃𝓀𝒾𝓃𝑔?" You will. Trust me. But that doesn't mean you haven't learned anything or grown from it, or learned that popped collars were never really a thing (even though they might make a comeback, you never know. That's fashion).
So I urge you: 𝚆𝚎𝚊𝚛 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐𝚜 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚝𝚞𝚛𝚗 𝚑𝚎𝚊𝚍𝚜. 𝒫𝓊𝓈𝒽 𝒷𝑜𝓊𝓃𝒹𝒶𝓇𝒾𝑒𝓈. Make people stop, turn and think. But most of all, wear things that push you out of your comfort zone, because that, my friends, is where you will truly find yourself.